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How To Deal With Negative Nellies In The Stand

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May 8, 2014-


-Coach’s perspective…


If you’re a coach and the opposing team is being really negative, heckling your players or yelling rude comments— then it is important for you as a coach to tell the kids to just focus on their own play. Let them know that they should focus inward on themselves and their own teammates. Some people in life are negative and are always going to be

out there trying to get in your mind and play head games with you. The worst thing you can do as a coach or player is to allow these types of negative people get in your mind and affect your game. Stay classy and stay strong. Don’t allow interruptive people to intimidate you, bring you down, or instill a negative mindset in yourself.

As a coach, it is vital to continue to tell your team to cheer louder, evoke positive comments and set a higher example. Stay united as a strong, positive team. Do not fall to the lower level of pessimistic comments from either an opposing team or parents in the stands.

Parent’s perspective…

If you are a parent in the stands and you catch wind of negative comments about the opposing team, your team, or even about your own child— it is important to take the high road. Parents get in some pretty terrible fights in the stands and there is never a positive outcome. The bottom line is that everyone involved in the sport needs to remember that this is a game and the main focus should be the kids participating in it. Sports are supposed to be fun, they are supposed to be fair, but most of all— they are supposed to be a great environment for kids. When adults act out of line it sets a poor example for the children and puts a huge damper on the game at stake.

It is essential for parents to set a high example and to move out of the stands when there are negative commentators. Moving out of the stands will send the message “we choose not to be around that”. A case of solidarity will let them know that their behavior is inappropriate and that you do not want to be associated with bad behavior that may affect the game.

I also think it is extremely important that a confrontation does not arise. Whether you are a coach, parent, or even just a bystander— never confront the commentator. If you confront the commentator this will just add fuel to the fire and could lead things to get out of hand. There is a way to make your statement without fueling a volatile situation.

What everyone should keep in mind:

Never lose perspective of what’s important. Keep your eye on the ball (pun intended) and don’t let anyone or anything deter you. The focus should be on the kids in the field, not the parents or fans in the stand. Typically people that have a positive attitude, a positive outlook, and that never say anything damaging— are the ones that are the happiest people and the kind of person you want to be around. On the other end of the spectrum, people that are very sarcastic and that spit out toxic negative remarks like venom— those are the kinds of people that no one wants to be around. Negative energy not only repels people, but it can also be especially damaging for children because they do not yet know how to deal with those types of situations, nor should they have to.

I think what is most crucial is that these types of situations are not escalated. We have to remember that these are young girls and boys playing a sport— and it is just a sport. As competitive as we are and as much as we want to win, perspective is needed whether you are a player, a coach, a parent or a fan. A strong perspective always needs to be kept in mind in adverse situations. Always take the high road because you will be able to look in the mirror and be proud of the way you handled the situation.

I also think it is extremely important that a confrontation does not arise. Whether you are a coach, parent, or even just a bystander— never confront the commentator. If you confront the commentator this will just add fuel to the fire and could lead things to get out of hand. There is a way to make your statement without fueling a volatile situation.


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